Consciousness & Mental Health

The Illusion of The Perfect Time

Illusion Perfect Timing
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Does the perfect time really exist? Nowadays, people have a very, humm… let’s say a very “complex” (often distorted) vision of perfect time. And because of that, you will find nonsense comparisons between individuals. Let me explain what I mean by that. I have encountered a woman who told her daughter that if she isn’t married at the age of 28 this might be the sign that she’s doing bad in life. Does such a statement makes sense? Personally I don’t think so.

Yes it’s true that time is important. But what about this other woman who got married at 28 and then divorced five years later? You see, we are all different. And when it comes to the notion of time it’s something very personal. The society has conditioned us to get frustrated based on insane belief systems. People must learn how to live their own truth, based on what they feel at a particular moment, and on what their inner values are. We must learn how to ask ourselves the most appropriate questions in order to advance in life. I’ll stick with the example of getting married. Please don’t get married because you think you’re getting old but do it because you believe you have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I can find plenty of examples related to this perfect time thing. I know a man who was 40 years old when he decided to go to university and study Computer Engineering. People told him that he was too old for that. But that didn’t stop him. He has spent three years in University and obtained his bachelor’s degree in computer engineering. He then worked for several companies before creating his own business. If you take the time to look around you will find a lot of examples regarding marriage, career change, setting up a family, traveling, etc, with unconventional timing. Something unconventional is not something bad. Something different is not something you should be afraid of. If there’s one thing you should be afraid of, it should be the fact of blindly following the crowd or popular beliefs. In order to find your place in this busy world, you have no other choice than learning to think for yourself. And it starts now.