Consciousness & Mental Health

What Are Positive Affirmations and How to Use Them

*Thank you for your tolerance. English isn’t my first language, but the more I practice, the better I get.*
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Positive affirmations are statements, often spoken, which are repeated in order to uplift the person at the receiving end of the message. In general, we use positive affirmations for ourselves, to improve a particular area of our life. Maybe we want a better career, stop smoking, more money; positive affirmations could be a useful tool to add to your arsenal. However, I am not talking about magic. Like any other tool, it’s essential to use them in an appropriate way to experience the benefits.

How does it work?

If you are interested, there are plenty of resources out there which will help you get a better understanding of the science behind positive affirmations. I will stick to the basics to make things a bit clearer. So, how does our brain work?

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To begin with:

Our brain doesn’t make the difference between what is real and what is not.

OK, try to pause for a moment, and think of an enjoyable meal you would like to have. How does your body react? Chances are, you’re even probably salivating at the moment, even though it’s just your imagination. For your brain, it’s happening right now and it’s real. Maybe one of the best way to understand this is by reflecting on movies. We know that behind the scenes, people are just acting. That’s why we call them actors. They are performers, they play on role. However, it doesn’t stop us to get emotional while watching a romantic scene, of to be scared while watching Scary Movie.

Our brain has troubles interpreting negative statements

If I tell you, “Don’t think of a black cat”…the image of a black cat will certainly pop up in your mind. That’s because the brain works best with positive statements. Maybe you now get why it’s important to focus on the things WE DO WANT, rather than focusing on what we don’t want, or on what we are afraid of. OK, so how do we use positive affirmations then? Let us imagine that you would like to become more confident. Which of the following sentences do you think you could use as a positive affirmation?

1- I will be more confident

2- I want to be more confident in my life

3- I don’t want confidence issues anymore

4- I radiate confidence in everything I do

The first sentence is in the future. Statements should be written in the present tense, to emphasize on the PRESENT moment. The second sentence expresses a desire. The brain doesn’t understand it as an instruction. You can desire something your entire life and never get it. The third sentence is in the negative form. We’ve already talked about that. Therefore, the best sentence to use as a positive affirmation is the last one: “I radiate confidence in everything I do”. This is actually a kind of instruction to the brain. By feeling it and embodying the frequencies of this statement, you’ll attract events and people which will match these thoughts. Our brain ALWAYS tries to validate what we BELIEVE as being true, without asking for our permission. You’ve noticed that I insisted on the term “BELIEVING”. Well, I admit that it’s quite difficult to believe you are good enough when you actually feel like a failure. At this point, it could be very useful to repeat your affirmations while being in a meditative state. This relaxed state makes the connection with your subconscious mind easier, and affirmations therefore get more chances to have an impact.

Other examples of Positive Affirmations are:

  • I am courageous and I stand up for myself
  • I am worthy of love and abundance
  • I attract positive people in my life
  • My thoughts are empowering

You can create your own personal positive affirmations regarding the areas of your life you would like to improve. Try to repeat your affirmations on a daily basis. You can even record them as MP3 files and listen to them on your way to work, during breaks or whenever you can. But don’t forget, using a meditative state could really be the missing piece.


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